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Ever notice how a man will "court" you, pursueyou, and do all kinds of amazing and romanticthings to win your heart as you're getting to knoweach other... But, after a little while, the romance,passion, and intimacy that he used to be soexcited about and create, starts to "fizzle out"once you're into a committed relationship? If you've ever found yourself in a situationwith a man who you knew was a great guy but hestarted acting immature, depended on you for toomany things (and didn't appreciate you for them)and all the while you kept giving more and more totry and make things work better and keep you
closerwhy so many women endup in unfulfilling relationships with men who"TAKE TAKE TAKE", and why these women so often endup getting little back for all their efforts. First off, tell me if this sounds at allfamiliar... You meet a great guy and you start dating. The "chemistry" is simply AMAZING and you can'tbelieve how into connecting and sharing he is...even on that emotional level where other men oftenfall flat. You spend time together and keep growingcloser, and you start to believe that maybe you'vefinally found that amazing friend, companion andlover all in one. He's so open and caring... and listens and paysattention to you and what's going with you in away that few men you've met can. Your connection is unbelievable. You both know you can count on each other inways that feel like you're closer than you havebeen with a man in a long, long time. Since you're both so close, he starts to dependon you for a few things in his life... and you'rehappy to help him since you really care about himand are a generous and loving person. But, as time goes on, something starts toslowly "shift". It starts with small things... He starts acting a little differently, andstops doing a lot of the things he used to do thatmade you admire and respect him. Somehow, he seems less confident, present, and"connected" with you. And then you notice... There's something different about how hedepends on you, and it sets off your "radar". You start to wonder if how he is with you isentirely healthy. You start to feel "drained" with him and withthe relationship more and more... but you knowthat a relationship is about give and take, so youkeep giving and have faith that things are goingfine. More time passes and you start to noticesomething else... You see that he isn't becoming moreappreciative of all the things you're doing forhim and your relationship. In fact, it feels like he's starting to takemore and more of it for granted. Actually, he seems LESS APPRECIATIVE of you andyour relationship in general. He starts asking and depending on you evenmore, without any real thanks or reciprocation. The more he does this, the more you sense thatthere's a kind of needy "childishness" inside himthat's becoming clearer. You want to be there for him and be a greatpartner... but you also want that fun, strong,playful, loving, confident man back who was therebefore things changed. With all this going on, you're not exactly sureof what to do about it or what's going on for himthat's making him act this way. He doesn't seem to pay you the same attention,give the same affection and support that you givehim, and it's starting to feel unfair and botheryou. Your relationship is starting to feel like it'sall about making sure "he's" happy. Which of course doesn't leave much room forwhat's going on for YOU. You know things can't go on this way if yourrelationship is going to work and be somethingworthwhile and "real". He's got to see what's going on and stop beingso self-involved. You know that he's had some challenges in hisown life and maybe he just doesn't see what'sgoing on. So, you decide to not make a big dealout of it. But, you know that something needs tochange... soon. So, you finally decide to talk to him aboutwhat's going on. You go over in your head again and again whatyou're going to say to him and what's been goingon for the last several months. You're sure that he'll see what's beenhappening and all the things you've been doing forhim and the relationship, and he'll give you someunderstanding. But when you talk to him, it doesn't work outthis way... AT ALL. Instead of hearing you and your intentions toget things back to a better place between you two,he just becomes frustrated, irritated andDEFENSIVE with you. Instead of hearing you, he makes you feel likeyou're "nagging" him and creating "drama". He even acts like you're the one beingridiculous and withdraws from you. Does any of this sound familiar to you? This situation where you know you're giving andgetting less than nothing back SUCKS. And unfortunately, it's a common experiencelots of women have in relationships with men. Now, there are about 50 things I could tell youabout how men are at fault and create theseproblems for themselves and for you in yourrelationship. But the reality is that you've already spenthours thinking about this before and have a lot ofyour own ideas about this. That is partially why I'm NOT going to talkabout what's going on with men here and what to doabout it. At least not yet. Right now we're going to talk about YOU. Why? Because thinking about YOURSELF is the firststep towards real GROWTH and AWARENESS in EVERYRELATIONSHIP you have in your life. You could spend days, weeks, months or yearsworrying about a man, what he thinks, and why hedoes the things he does. But if you want to be smart... And you want relationships to start "working"for you, instead of seeming like a neverendingsource of frustration and disappointment trying toget a man to make the relationship work... Then you'll make sure you have things handledfor yourself first. And that way you'll have the CERTAINTY thatonly comes from understanding what's happening inthe relationship around you... and what YOU needto do in each situation that comes up with a man. THE ONE QUESTION THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIPWITH A MAN INSTANTLY If you're at the most basic levels of what Icall "emotional maturity" in your life, thenyou've started to recognize something veryimportant and significant about yourself... You've recognized that you have a few PATTERNScoming up in your relationships. Of course, some of these patterns are positivetraits that bring benefits, center around yourpersonal preferences, and involve things you bringinto your life CONSCIOUSLY and for good reason. But the reality is these aren't the only kindof patterns you have in your life. You also have a special group of "negativepatterns". Patterns that you save just for MEN. So, let me ask you a very simple question. It's a question that could very well change thecourse of your love life IMMEDIATELY once youanswer it. Here's the question - Do you know your "negative patterns" inrelationships with men? You might have a few of these that you alreadyknow about that you can rattle off in your headright now without really thinking about it. THESE ARE NOT THE PATTERNS I'M LOOKING FOR TOIMPROVE YOUR LOVE LIFE. You already know about these patterns and thisknowledge still doesn't seem to be helping you ifyou're running into the same issues and situationsagain and again. Which is why it's obvious that "what" youalready know isn't going to help you learn andgrow past these situations with men for good. You need to expand your PERSPECTIVE. That's why I'm looking for the patterns thatyou DON'T see right now, and that you aren'tCONSCIOUS of. Here's where we're going to take ACTION... Right now, I want you to give yourself the timeand space for the next 5 minutes to think aboutyour own patterns in your past or presentrelationships with men. And, I want you to put everything else asidejust for a few short moments while you focus onYOURSELF. By the way, if you don't have time to do thisnow, then you probably never will. And, I know it's a simple question, but theAWARENESS and GROWTH that can come from youranswer is what's going to change your love lifeimmediately. So now that you've made the time, I want youto think about the following - I want you to come up with at least TWO of yourown negative relationship patterns with men. And I don't just mean patterns that are reallyabout men... such as "I always pick men that areclueless about loving relationships." This is focusing on HIM, not YOU. I mean something like "I meet men and quicklyspend all my time with them. But soon I see thatI've "lost myself" and I am not able to have ahealthy balance. And inevitably, we end upbreaking up and I resent all the time I spent onthe relationship and him, instead of spending moretime on myself." That's one common example lots of women haveexperienced. Now, it's your turn. I want you to come up with 2 other patternsthat have to do with YOU and things that come fromYOUR THINKING or BEHAVIOR.What if the problems that come up in yournegative pattern are caused by these traits? And what if the traits in your negativepattern didn't represent just your personalWEAKNESSES? What if they ALSO represented your personalSTRENGTHS at the same time? If you were thinking that you should get rid ofthe trait or quality entirely that's involved inyour negative pattern so that things will workbetter in the future... then you're going to thatplace of "All or Nothing Thinking". There's a lot of power and AWARENESS created inwhat you just did when you think about it... IFyou stay aware of this when you're interactingwith a man in your relationship. When you see how your WEAKNESSES, that you'vebeen giving yourself a hard time about and tryingto figure out how to get rid of, are also part ofyour STRENGTHS... things you never could haveunderstood will start to become clear to you. Challenges, issues, attitudes and hurtfulthings that a man brings to you that relate toyour patterns, and these traits will start to lookdifferently to you... And you'll start to have an amazing sense ofCLARITY about what's the best thing to do for you,for him, and for your relationship. A "STRANGE TRUTH" ABOUT THE PEOPLE ANDRELATIONSHIPS YOU ATTRACT IN LIFE AND LOVE You've got some basic tools to work with now tounderstand more about what's going on with you andyour relationship with a man. But it really only starts here. Are you CLEAR on how these 2 patterns come upin your life? Do you know how to avoid "All or NothingThinking" the next time it comes up and tries tocreate DISTANCE between you and a man. Do you know where these thoughts come from andwhat to do to stay conscious and overcome thenegative aspects of your other destructiverelationship patterns? Do you know how to guide a man to start doingthese same things to improve HIMSELF and the wayhe is in your relationship, so you don't have totry and convince him of what's going on that hecan't see or isn't paying attention to? Most women who aren't in a happy, healthy,loving, lasting relationship don't have thisknowledge and the ability to stay connected with aman that comes along with it. The strange truth is, patterns aren't justcoincidences in your life. They keep repeating in your life for a reason. What are the lessons that keep coming up foryou in your love life that you can't learn fromwhere you are today, but keep coming at you? The reality is that you have a choice... You can keep repeating these patterns, andexperiencing the pain and frustration that comeswith them again and again... This is the "easy" choice that doesn't ask orrequire you to learn and grow at all. OR... You can create a "shift" in your life. You can choose to have more AWARENESS and moreGROWTH... which will of course bring new ways ofseeing things, and best of all, NEW RESULTS inyour relationship. The choice is yours right now. I've put together what I think is the VERY BESTprogram just for a woman like you that will createthe GROWTH and AWARENESS you're looking for inyour love life. It's called "From Casual To Committed". If you've ever wondered why you get "stuck"with a man once you get to a certain level ofconnection and intimacy... and then things seem togo backwards and he withdraws... then this programis going to change your life and yourrelationship. One of the most critical things that's going oninside a relationship when a "casual", or even acommitted relationship, starts to wrong, eventhough there's no lack of love or caring betweenthe man and woman, is FEAR. And I don't just mean YOUR FEARS... I'm talkingabout a HIS FEARS too. Inside this CD/DVD program I go DEEP into whatfear is in relationships, how it works into theentire relationship "system"... and how to breakout of the negative cycles and patterns of FEARthen ANGER then WITHDRAWAL. There's a reason why most men pull away andsabotage perfectly good, loving relationshipswith women. And there's a reason why YOUR FEARS are onlymaking these things with a man WORSE. There are clear steps that you can take tochange your love life and relationship, no matterwhere you are right now with a man. Shifting your PERSPECTIVE and becoming MORECONSCIOUS is your first step... some of whichwe've touched on here. You can stop the unnecessary PATTERNS. You can come to terms with, and understand, theFEARS. And you can find out, once and for all, why itis that men so often put up RESISTANCE to becomingmore connected, closer and MORE COMMITTED with YOUon a physical and emotional level. Don't let go of this opportunity to haveLASTING CHANGE and IMPROVEMENT to the quality ofyour love life and all your relationships.

smart or popular?

I know there are lot of people who are nerds in school, and they are tell the same story,

there is a strong correlation between being nerd and being popular. Being smart seems to make you unpopular.
Why? For someone who is still studying, that may seem like an odd question to ask. The key to this mystery is to rephrase the question: why don’t smart kids make themselves popular? If they’re so smart, why don’t they figure out how popularity works and beat the system just as they do the standardized tests?
So if intelligence doesn’t boost one’s popularity, why are smart kids so consistently unpopular? The answer I believe, is that they don’t really want to be popular.
But if someone told me that earlier, I would have laughed at him. Being unpopular makes kids school life’s miserable. Some of the kids felt so miserable that they dropped out or worse, hurt themselves. Telling me that I didn’t want to be popular would have seemed like telling someone to dying of thirst in the desert that he didn’t want a glass of water. Of course I wanted to be popular.
In fact, I didn’t, or I didn’t want it badly enough. There was something else I wanted more, which was to be smart. And that meant not just doing well in school, though that counted for something, but also designing powerful rockets, or writing well, or knowing how to program computers. In general, making great things.
I never tried to separate my wants and to weigh them against each other. If I had, I would have seen that being smart was very important if someone had offered me the chance to be most popular kid in school but at the price of having below- average intelligence, I wouldn’t have taken it.
Much as they suffer from unpopularity, I don’t think many nerds would either. But most kids would take that deal. For would many of them, it would be a step up.
And that, I think is the root of the problem. Nerds serve two masters: they want to be popular, but they want even more to be smart. And popularity is not something you can do in your spare time, not in the fiercely competitive environment of the secondary school.
The main reason nerds are unpopular is that they have other things to think about. Their attention is drawn to books of the natural world, not fashion and parties. While nerds are being trained to get the best answers, popular kids are trained to please.
Few smart kids can spare the time that popularity requires. Unless they also happen to be good looking, natural athletes, or siblings of popular kids, they tend to be nerds. And that’s y smart people are most miserable between the ages of 11- to 17. at that age popularity seems to be – all important. No wonder, smart kids are most unhappy in intermediate school and high school. Their other interests leave them with little time to work on their popularity, and since it is zero- sum game, these make them targets for the whole school.
Nerds who are still in school should not hold their breath, but maybe one day a heavily armed force of adults might rescue them. But they probably won’t be coming this month. Any immediate improvement in the nerds lives is probably going to have to come from the nerds themselves.
Merely understanding the situation they’re in should make it less painful. Nerds aren’t losers. They’re just paying a different game, a game that is much closer to the one played in the real world. Adults know this. Its hard to find successful adults who don’t claim to have been nerds in school.
It’s important for nerds to realize, too, that school is not life. School is strange, artificial thing, half sterile, and half feral, but it isn’t the real thing. It’s only temporary, and if they look, they can see beyond it even while they’re still in it.

who said the world is fair?

If you expect it to be fair, you’ll be in great disappointments. World moves, every time when trials come unto you and you stop on fighting for it, nothing will happen to you. When life gives you a blow, there is nothing to you can do but to bounce back.
Life is a series of dreams, when one dream fall apart. Don’t be afraid to look for another one, that’s what life is all about. It was a series of battles that may inflict pain but it was the very pain that made one a better person. “what doesn’t kill you make you stronger ” – that showed that pain was really a part of the development process of a person.


“I fail id go mad if I couldn’t catch a glimpse of you
I got scared when I realized. I might be falling inlove with you
You are an added complication in my life
But then , not having you in it, was sheer hell for me.”


Life is a bed of roses and why god created our life because he has the reasons too. If its happiness a person could ever get how could she appreciate life? Much better that after the sacrifices and trials you can get trough.. as said, that all is well, ends well.

we can be a better person

“Some people misunderstood my attitude,
Some people get hurt the way I talk
Some people get angry coz of my indifference
But that’s the real me.
And I don’t need to pretend just to please anybody”


Being an aquarius girl

Aquarians are known for having the sunniest outlook in life-------- maybe that’s the reason why I can able to smile more……

Aquarians believe that their life quirks and idiosyncracies make them stand out in a good way. They determined to make a difference in the world.

Aquarians are probably never without a friend. They have a special way of connecting with the people they need and have a knock for forming the special bonds of friendship.

Aquarians are made of sensitive stuff. They aren’t just sensitive about other’s peoples needs, they’re also vulnerable when it comes to their own feelings.

Aquarians know how to deal with their feelings, accept and try to do something about it.



How am I living my life

FIND YOUR PASSION

Be as flexible a possible. Don’t write your plan for your lif on stone. Chances are some thing will happen in your life, an opportunity you did’nt come close to expecting that shows itself as clear and concrete option for you to take for the rest of your life. Don’t live up to anyone else expectations. But your own, you will know within your heart what a good standard or anything should be..



KEEP CALM
Life can be unnerving and if u don’t make an effort to keep collectd and focused, you could easily lose your cool, take regular conscious deep breaths to calm and center yourself.

KEEP YOUR CHIN UP

Not it is only good for your posture and diminishes your double chin, it also helps you maintain an “ I can handle this” attitude. By keeping your chin up, you can keep your head above water.

KEEP YOUR SPIRITS HIGH

Always maintain a positive and joyful attitude, remember that no one can perk you up like yourself, keep your spirits high when the going gets rough by focusing on your dreams and counting on your blessings.

KEEP YOUR WORD

True measure of a man is… if he keep his word, honorable and trustworthy is the man who stands by his promises it is important to think well before speaking because once a word is uttered and released into the universe its vibrations can no longer erased.

KEEP ABREAST OF TIMES

The world is moving too fast. Know what’s happening, what’s in style. What’s accourant, what’s relevant, what’s important. Learn the hottest trends and the latest in tech. don’t be left behind.

KEEP GREAT MEMORIES

In the very end, good memories of life are what we will left with, not the jewels or riches that, we cant bring when we finally go. Live each moment beautifully. These magical moments create a magnificient life.

KEEP OUT OF DANGER

He who exposes himself/herself to danger will probably finds it. Don’t court danger. Avoid it. As they ay “ an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure”



STAND OUT, DON’T FIT IN

If you fit in, because you happen to like each other, then that’s cool. “ in my group of friends, were all individual, how we dress, how we speak,. But we all firt in because we love the unique things about each other.” Be cognizant about your gift, sometimes a teacher/family will tell you what that gift is. Listen to your heart and realize what that gift might be.

KEEP ON BELIEVING

Belief is the mother of reality. What you believe becomes your truth. Believe in yourself. Believe in the magic of universe. Believe in the power of your dreams. Most of all believe you can do it. So you can have all your hearts desire. Never lose hope. Tomorrow will be another day. That will bring new hope and blessings. Keep faith in the abundance of the universe and the mystery and the perfection of life, hope for nothing but the best.

KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT

People talk too much, we language ourselves to or own destruction and defeat. Know when to talk and when to shut up. Oftentimes silence speaks more eloquently than words.

DEALING WITH MOM

You only got one mom, but it’s a two way thing. It cant be one party bending on the other ones. Well, you have to recognized there are going to be arguments, there are days when you say. Ok, this woman was a curse brought to me Satan by himself, but other times you cant live without this woman in your life and your going to need her in your life no matter what happens..love your mom

HOLD OUT ON LOVE

The thrill of finally being in a teenage year might lead you to hook up with the first cutie who will whisper sweet nothings into your ear. Take time to meet as many prospects as you can. Who knows? You might just be waiting for Mr. Right.
Let yourself!. Before you finally fall in love with the right person, you’ve got to get a lot of practice with the few of the wrong ones. Its not a fairy tale- you wanna be with your first boyfriend for the rest of your life but the reality is.. it does’nt always bound to happen.
Girls go into falling in love with a very clear thought that this might be the person I am inlove now and as the rose colored grass fade away, you discover that what their faults are, what you don’t like, and what you cant tolerate. Take those lessons with you and then move on, you also have to learn when to break up with someone.

changes

changes

have u?...........

have you ever been in a relationship with a man where every time conflict comes up you're pushedfarther and farther apart and things just keepgetting worse?
And because of this, have you ever becomeafraid of how a man is going to react to you andyour feelings?
To the point where you start "censoring"yourself and holding things in... even though youknow it's important for you both to share how youfeel if things are going to work out?
I know I've seen more than my fair share ofrelationships where something was just "off" withhow the couple communicated.
And instead of talking and sharing in a waythat builds trust and encourages listening andunderstanding, each conversation ends up ADDINGTENSION and creates MORE DISTANCE.
And what can be even more confusing is thatthese kinds of relationships often have a lot of"chemistry"... but as you might know, this doesn'tmean there's a deeper emotional connection that'sbeing built.
If you get what I'm talking about, then youknow what it's like to have an amazing"connection" with someone on several levels... butALSO to feel like it can be IMPOSSIBLE tocommunicate and be heard in your relationship.
If you've had a relationship like this in yourlife, or you're in one, then you probably realizethat relationships like this don't tend to LAST.
Or at the very least, they are VERY UNSTABLEand UNCERTAIN - making both people feel burnt outand frustrated.
The truth is disagreements and conflicts are afact of life. But most women and men don't knowhow to approach these "speed bumps" in aproductive, compassionate, honest, healthy waythat will keep a long term relationship alive andthriving.
So then what happens?
Resentment builds, your partner grows distant,and the loving, fun, effortless affection thatused to be there so often disappears, and you'releft with a lot of "work" just to try and have apartner.
And forget about intimacy, deep emotionalconnection and passion.
If any of this sounds familiar or concerns you,there's good news:
There IS a solution. You CAN improve yourcommunication skills when it comes to difficulttimes in a relationship AND in the process, growand become a more mature, emotionally healthywoman. Which is what "naturally" attracts a man towant to be with a woman in the long run.
I just finished up a FASCINATING interview witha woman who has quite literally "cracked the code"on resolving conflicts with men in a way that willlead you to even DEEPER connection and intimacyinside your relationship today.